Category Archives: marriage
Okay, bear with me on this one. If you aren’t married to a Salvadoran, or at least know one well, this won’t amuse you. For those of you familiar with the ways of Salvatruchos, read on…
You know you’re Married to a Salvadoran when…
• You have a machete in the closet
• You know what “puchica” means
• You celebrate National Pupusa Day on the 2nd Sunday of November
• You can pronounce “Chalatenango” and “Zacatecoluca”
• You know that a “guanaco” is not just a South American llama
• You think Pollo Campero is better than KFC
• You’ve come to think that pointing at things with your lips instead of your finger is normal
• You’ve drank soda from a plastic bag
• You’ve rarely seen your spouse without “chanclas” in the house
• You don’t bother buying a swimsuit anymore and just swim in your clothes
• You try to scare your kids with stories of Cipitío and La Sihuanaba
• People have asked if your spouse is in MS-13 as a joke, but you could tell they were a little worried
• When your spouse’s relatives say they want to “visit”, you know they’re moving in
As a little girl, one of the first crushes I ever had, was on Ricky Ricardo (Desi Arnaz). I vividly remember watching I Love Lucy with my mother while folding towels warm from the dryer. I sometimes wonder how much this later influenced what I sought in a man because from a young age (we’re talking Elementary school), I very much developed a “type” and my crushes on boys very rarely strayed from a particular set of qualities.
In 7th grade, as part of sex education class, the teacher had us make a list of things we sought in a partner. It was to help us realize what we wanted. Some of the things on my list were quite different from the other girls in my class. I had the typical virtues on my list: kind, intelligent, generous, romantic… but #1 on my list was the word “accent”.
I’m pretty sure Desi Arnaz influenced this preference. It’s an odd thing to think about. To imagine that if a young Cuban man I would never meet, hadn’t pursued his dreams back in the 1950′s, my life could be dramatically different. (And the fact that an interracial couple was put on TV back then and became popular is even more shocking.)
Here is one of my favorite clips from the show. This is the episode where Lucy goes to Cuba on vacation and meets Ricky for the first time.
(Phone conversation with Mr. López this morning)
Mr. López: I just want to say ‘thank you’ for being so supportive. What is that saying?… Um, ‘Next to every great man is a great woman.’
Mrs. López: Actually, I believe it’s, ‘Behind every great man, is a great woman’.
Mr. López: I knew that. It’s the same in Spanish. I didn’t think you’d like it that way.
Mrs. López: You are a smart man.